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Q:
Do you think physical appearance matters that much to women? I’ve noticed that girls these days seem way more shallow than guys.

A:
I don’t know that they are more shallow than men, but I would say that the answer varies. It depends on the woman. Some are intrigued by personality, wisdom, intellect, or humor, while others are more physically driven. In this way, women are very similar to men. More often than not for both sexes, an initial physical attraction is what entices one to look deeper to see if the intellectual/personality/humor criteria can be met. This is why you see so many “hot” first dates without a follow-up. If the minds can’t meet, someone gets bored easily.

Q:
How do I tell a guy that I’m 25 and still a virgin? And what would you think about a girl you want to have sex with who tells you that?

A:
This has also come up before, but again, it bears repeating: Just tell him. There’s no point in keeping it a secret if you think it will have a profound and possible negative effect on how your relationship may go. For me? I may shy away from dating a 25-year-old virgin only because I am aware that if we ever connect sexually, there could be an emotional expectation. Men know that if we are your first, it’s a pretty important thing. Some of us don’t want to be that pivotal of a person, and will balk at it early on in a relationship.

Q:
Do men prefer big or small breasts?

A:
I’m sure you can imagine that if you ask a group of men that question, you will find yourself with a multitude of answers. There is no one answer. Everybody likes what he likes. I will answer this for myself, to give you an idea of where my personal taste lies. For me, it is a simple rule: Real, little to medium; fake, big. I don’t have an issue with size at all, just what they’re made up of. However, if I’m really into the girl, it doesn’t matter at all. On a purely superficial level, I am not a huge fan of big real breasts. They flop all over and fall into the arms and just seem like a huge mess to me. I type this with a smile because it sounds funny, but it also happens to be true. I like a firm-and-in-place set that is visually pleasing as well as functional. Visual stimulation in the bedroom is as important to me as the physical.

Q:
How do you be yourself and feel comfortable around women?

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I have actually answered this one before, but I believe it is worth repeating. It’s all about your state of mind and level of self-acceptance. The way I look at it is this: I’m already not having sex with her, so what have I got to lose by being true to myself? Worst-case scenario is, I’m still not having sex with her. I’m no better or worse off in the long run as I haven’t risked anything. Also, there is no point in pretending to be anyone other than who you are. If you do, you’ll eventually digress into your true self and it will all come out in the end anyway. Why even spend the energy creating a false exterior?

Q:
What is the best way to achieve an erection after an eight-ball of cocaine?

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One of life’s great mysteries. How to get a handle on a drug that makes you want to fuck, but prevents you from doing so. Women tend to not have an issue with it, so we as men are even more screwed … or not screwed. You know what I mean. I know some guys claim Cialis or Viagra is the way to go here, but I always found myself with a splitting headache from it—and not the good head. My suggestion? Get really good at cunnilingus. It’s your best bet in terms of staying in the bedroom and being able to perform on any level. That or try the pills. For me? I gave up the drugs. I found that I would rather just fuck than spend a bunch of money to not be able to fuck, sleep, or think rationally.

Q:
Why is it that when a man has a perfectly healthy, pleasure-filled, fantastic sex life with one woman, he feels the need to seek out other women for sex?

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I knew the day would come when some body would ask me this. I’m definitely not going to make any friends here, but I will answer your question. Keep in mind, this answer doesn’t apply to all men, just most. (I’m sure your man is a loyal and dedicated guy who would never dream of even thinking about anyone else. That also goes for any other women reading this.) The reason a man seeks sex from other women is because no matter how in love he is, no matter how hot his girl is, no matter how great his sex life is, nothing compares to new. Think of this old joke: Two guys are at a bar, where a hot waitress takes their order. One guy says, “Damn, she has everything I look for in a woman.” His friend asks, “What’s that?” “She’s not my wife.” It’s funny because it’s true.

Q:
If you fool around—even just once—with someone who is married, is there any way he can actually like or respect you? (Assuming he liked or respected you in the first place.)

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That really depends on the people and the situation. Personally, I say yes. Then again, I am a firm believer in being polyamorous, which is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of all the parties involved. Anyway, this idea of “respect” is like a buzzword thrown around when dealing with sexual matters. For me? I really don’t think the idea of respect gaining or waning is even an issue. I have never respected anyone more or less depending on when or how we have had sex. I think what women pick up on is the fact that the man in question may not try as hard to impress after sex, as he has already had it. But the respect factor is rarely even considered. I think what you may be feeling is a self-respect issue. That certainly comes into play when having sex with a married man. Think about it.

Q:
How can you have sex with a guy on the first or second date and have him still respect you? I mean, how much time do you have to waste before finding out if he’s good in bed or not? What happens if you wait and he’s not good?

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Personally, I am very accelerated in this area. I say, it’s 2012 and we all know that a physical connection is just as important as emotional and spiritual connections. Why waste time on a movie, dinner, a club, bowling, or whatever else, only to find that when you finally kiss, there’s no fire. My advice is not to worry about when you have sex and just to let it flow. Too much thinking on this can destroy the whole thing and put way too much weight on what is probably the most natural thing the two of you will ever do.

Q:
Is it ethical to fake an orgasm, or is it another form of lying to your partner?

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I suppose it’s somewhat unethical, sure. However, the real issue is that you have to lie about it. I would suggest trying to create a more even playing field, and having a conversation to discuss what works best for you. I mean, you may be robbing him of an ego stroke, but you’re also robbing yourself of an orgasm. I don’t know what exactly you’re accomplishing by faking it. Seems like a lose/lose, as he is more than likely to think everything is good. That means he won’t change what he’s doing anytime soon.

Q:
How can you talk your girl into doing a threesome with another girl?

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Honestly, if you have to talk her into it, you may not want to go down that road. The whole threesome situation can be an emotional hotbed waiting to blow up in your face if you aren’t careful. If your girl isn’t already into it, she may feel threatened if she interprets the suggestion as meaning she’s not enough for you. Discuss the concept in general terms, and if you sense any hesitation, take your foot off the gas. Pressure her into it and she could end up resenting you for a long time and throwing the idea in your face in the middle of arguments, seemingly out of nowhere. “Oh, yeah? Well, why don’t you just go find some whore you can have your threesome with?” (Women love to do this. Ha!) If she doesn’t bring up the idea or isn’t interested, pushing her into it may do nothing more than cause you to wake up single very soon.

On the other hand, if she is down with it, have at it! Just make sure you don’t take advantage of a drunken evening and have a threesome with a friend of hers. When she wakes up sober, that’s when the real fun begins. And by “fun” I mean absolute hell.

The truth is, threesomes are usually better when none of the individuals are in an existing relationship. Sure, there are many couples that are secure enough to do it without repercussions. But in those situations, nobody needs to be “talked into it.”