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Sex That’s Worth the Trip
Author: Penthouse Magazine
We all have that mental list of sex acts we hope to experience at least once in our lives. It just so happens that some of them are best indulged when you’re off your home turf.
By Victoria Zdrok, Ph.D.
First, a few words of wisdom: However you choose to experiment on your trip, keep track of your wallet, do not reveal your real identity, and don’t take any incriminating photos. That way, your secret is safe.
It is illegal to sunbathe nude on most U.S. beaches, as I once quickly discovered when I took off my top on a white-as-sugar beach in Pensacola, Florida. But many places are not so repressed. The French Gold Coast is well-known for its boob-filled beaches, and you can find other hot spots all around the Adriatic and European coasts.
Having sex in public is definitely an activity to try far from home—after all, you don’t want to give your neighbors a show, or risk becoming the subject of a big sex scandal in the local papers. Try doing it like the cavemen did in a tropical place like Tahiti, where everyone seems to be shamelessly making love on the decks of their over-the-water bungalows. Parks and other wilderness areas are also great places for sex au naturel. Pick a leafy bower just off the trail.
If you and your girlfriend want to try a three-way tryst but can’t imagine finding a third among your friends, vacation is the perfect occasion. My boyfriend and I had some really hot threesomes after picking up a pole dancer at a Mexican strip club and with a Brazilian model I found in a Rio club. And since you aren’t likely to see your third again, there is less likelihood of jealousy interfering with your relationship after you get home.
It also can be easier to get wild with another couple if you know you’ll probably never see them again. And since all those sexual terms sound more erotic in another language, try France, renowned for its swinging scene. An internet search for “swingers clubs” will yield dozens of groups all over the world—yes, even in the States—and don’t forget to check out the many swinging groups on our sister site, AdultFriendFinder.com.
Ever wonder whether a pro is better in bed than your girlfriend? Visit a country where prostitution is legal, such as Holland, Brazil, or Costa Rica. (For more on Costa Rica, see “Ticas for the Taking” on the following pages.) Asia has many places where pros are easy to find, and cheap to boot, most notably Japan, famous for its geisha girls. Who wouldn’t like to get the “full treatment” from a woman who has been extensively trained to please a man?
Feeling nostalgic for your teens? Play it safe with barely legal working girls in countries that don’t have statutoryrape laws, such as Eastern Europe or the Far East. Asian girls, in particular, often look 18 when they’re well into their thirties, so Bangkok and Kuala Lumpur are good locales for indulging such fantasies.
If you’ve wondered what sex would be like with a pharmaceutical lift, head to a place where performance enhancing drugs are legal. Many countries sell vasodilators, such as Viagra and Cialis, over the counter, so there’ll be no need to beg your family doctor for a prescription. And while pot isn’t known for improving your sex skills, in Holland you can choose which type of marijuana you want to smoke before sex—or at any time.
If you have a desire to try wet, wild, and messy fetishes, such as pie-in-the-face flinging, mud wrestling, or cake sitting, do it in a hotel, where you can let the maid service clean up the mess. Even if the hotel charges you for wine-stained, food-smeared sheets, it’s still better than ruining your own stuff.
If you have a yearning to be punished by a dominatrix, but you want to make sure none of your acquaintances find out about it, combine a vacation with a visit to a dungeon. The internet is packed with ads for voluptuous whip-wielding vixens. (Again, we’d be remiss if we didn’t steer you toward the FriendFinder site Alt.com.)
On the other hand, if your fantasies run toward spanking a squirming lady and your girlfriend won’t play, you can find many willing spankophiles online. You shouldn’t have any problem finding someone close to wherever you have a vacation planned. Just be sure to discuss details of the full experience before arranging a date. Some women love to follow up a spanking with pussy-pounding sex, while others get off on corporal punishment alone and won’t do anything more. You need to find someone who’s looking for the same happy ending you are.
If you’re bi-curious or swing both ways but don’t want it advertised to your friends, a vacation is the best time to indulge your desire for the “other side.” Being bisexual myself, I find it easier to think of picking up a hot chick when I’m on the road—especially since then I won’t have to share her with my boyfriend.
Or you can try the best of both worlds and sample a pre-op tranny—Brazilian trannies are well-known for their oral skills. Just make sure you are completely safe and stay current with testing for sexually transmitted diseases. Figuratively letting down your hair is no excuse for literally letting down your guard.
Double Exposure
Author: Dr. Z
By Martin Downs, M.P.H., and Victoria Zdrok, Ph.D.
Q:
My parents divorced in my early teens, and it seems like most of my relatives and buddies are either divorced or heading there. I recently married a woman I’m crazy about, but the high of being with her is spoiled by my constant fears about our relationship not working out. Can you give a few general rules that will help our relationship last?
The Downs side: The first rule is, don’t expect that “high” to last. Absolutely no one goes through life as husband and wife cooing at each other and making out all day. One day you’re soul mates, the next, you’re just her asshole husband and she’s a fucking bitch. To stay happily married, you have to decide to love each other through the lows, too.
The second rule is, banish from your mind any thoughts of your marriage “not working out.” Remember, when you got married, you vowed certain things. I suspect a lot of couples mumble through their wedding vows like they’re reciting the Pledge of Allegiance: They don’t really mean or even hear what they’re saying. But think about what you promised—to stay together, no matter what, till death do you part. Or did you solemnly swear to play house until you get sick of each other?
If divorce is so common among your family and friends, you might think that’s what everyone does when they’re not happy. Instead, you should think of it as the nuclear option, the D-bomb. Even when you’re pushed to the brink—and most couples get there sooner or later—don’t be the one to drop the bomb.
I don’t mean to be a total buzzkill about marriage; I just don’t want you to panic and do something stupid the first time you have a real marital crisis. Most of the time, things are going to be fine, even sweet. So rule number three is, think about something else. Fussing about relationships is for single people. Married people ought to be able to take the relationship for granted. You should be thinking about what you’ll be doing together next month or next year, not whether you’ll still be together.
The Pet doctor: The fact that you’re trying to storm-proof your relationship is a good sign, since most men put little effort into their relationships. Most women need three things to keep them happy: attention, affection, and appreciation. Listen to your wife and express interest in what she says; show her you care by giving her cards, flowers, and other things that make most men gag; and express your love through hugs, kisses, and caresses.
You can significantly enhance your chances of relationship survival if you:
• tackle the conflict; don’t avoid it.
• put your wife before your job.
• give each other room for independent interests.
• help with housework.
• have plenty of sex.
• keep the in-laws from intruding.
Take Her Around the World
Author: Dr. Z
Whether you’re jetting across the ocean or just dreaming of getting away, these sensational sex toys will guarantee a very satisfying journey.
By Victoria Zdrok, Ph.D.
All products are available at PenthouseStore.com.
Your finances may not allow you to take your girlfriend on a real trip around the world, but you can take her on an imaginary orgasmic tour of the world’s top sex locales with a set of Penthouse City Vibes. Each of these sex toys is inspired by and dedicated to a different city—Los Angeles, Shanghai, New Orleans, Rome, and Paris—and each package includes a sexcapades filled Penthouse letter.
If she loves all things Italian, get her the Penthouse City Rome vibrator and give her some dolce amore. This is a sleek and metallic-looking finger vibrator with a nub on the tip and an on/off switch to control single speed vibrations.
The Penthouse City Paris vibrator is small and smooth, with a powerful motor in its tip, and features four types of vibration. The Push-4-Play is easy to operate with a single touch for the voilà! effect. Ooh-la-la!
Things get kinkier if you take her further east. The Penthouse City Shanghai box contains metallic Ben Wa Balls, a modern twist on the favorite toy of geisha girls. These are ideal for Kegel strengthening exercises, or for getting her all hot and bothered and ready for intercourse—make her wear them while she’s waiting for you.
If she prefers to buy American, get her the Penthouse City Los Angeles or New Orleans vibrators. The Los Angeles vibe is petite and curvy with a polished shaft and swirled surface, and has faux-diamond accents on the bottom in honor of that city’s ostentatious glamour. The New Orleans vibe is slender, so it’s perfect for beginners or those who prefer a modest girth with some length.
If you take her on a real trip, make sure she brings along a petite, compact toy—one that is unlikely to go off in her carry-on as she’s going through security. Penthouse’s Mode Touch Bullet is a perfect travel toy, as it has a separate on/off button and a touch-pad controller to adjust the level of vibration with a tap of your thumb. This innovative design allows for gradual adjustment of vibration (with seven types of vibration and pulsation), and makes it less likely to go off full-blast and cause a ruckus with security agents (if you want to be totally secure, take the batteries out before packing). The other alluring feature of this waterproof, eggshaped toy is its silky-smooth surface, which can be used for both internal and external play.
For those who prefer direct clitoral stimulation, I highly recommend the Cyber Flicker 5X bullet, also from the Penthouse Mode Collection. Its oval-shaped body has a flexible flicker tip that provides direct clitoral stimulation quite similar to that of a teasing tongue. It’s made of supersoft CyberSkin and has five levels of pulsation and vibration. When your tongue needs a break, the Cyber Flicker will come to your rescue.
If she likes more penetration power, get her the Mode Gyrating Massager. It has a sleek, seven-inch-long ribbed shaft perfect for vaginal exploration, and sparkly rhinestones around the base where the turn dial is, making it both chic-looking and easy to locate. The feel of this massager will get her wet with anticipation, and its pleasurable gyrating motion—which few toys have—will leave her writhing in ecstasy. An added bonus: The Massager fits perfectly into a condom, which means you can use it for alternating vaginal and anal play; practice safe sex by slipping the condom on when inserting it in her rear, and taking it off when sliding it into her pussy.
If you enjoy both vaginal and anal play, the safest sex is to use toys specifically designed for anal play, and then only use them anally. The Slimline Anal Explorer by Penthouse is perfect for backdoor beginners. This slender but powerful vibrator has a soft and superflexible six-inch sleeve for comfortable anal exploration. Make sure to put a bit of lube inside the sleeve before putting it on the vibrator—as well as lots of lube on top of the sleeve before inserting it. She’s guaranteed to become an anal queen.